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By: My Tiny Kingdom » Writing You A Love Letter

My Tiny Kingdom » Writing You A Love Letter — Mon, 06 Aug 2007 19:51:57 +0000

[...] Bill and I got married in August of 1993 and vowed to stay together “from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, as long as we both shall live.” [...]

By: Lillian The Ponderer

Lillian The Ponderer — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 19:18:14 +0000

“Being Married is a different story. That’s the fun part.” That’s what I keep telling my beloved, it’s just one day. Yes I want to wear a pretty dress and yes I want all our family and loved ones there, and yes it IS a VERY important day but at the end, it is just one day and what I am looking forward to is spending the rest of my life with him, not just that one day. I love your advice, and on behalf of all other brides-to-be “thank you very much”.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 15:57:48 +0000

Such good advice! Fortunately a lot of the rigid wedding rules are relaxing a bit. I went to a very sweet wedding this weekend that had the following music: Stand By Me (60’s version) while the bridesmaids walked in, “And I think to myself, what a wonderful world” while the couple lit the Unity Candle, and “How Sweet it is to be loved by You” as the recessional. It was fun! And it helps to hear I’m not the only one who has to sweep toenail clippings off the dining room floor

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 14:30:56 +0000

I forgot to say that I heard rain on your wedding day is good luck.

By: Shelley

Shelley — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 14:16:20 +0000

Love the post. I wasn’t lucky enough to have someone tell me these things; I had to figure them out for myself. Fortunately, come my wedding day, I was able to sit back, be pleased with my choices, and enjoy the day with my husband. Now I get to sit with my children, look at my wedding album, and tell them the great stories from the wedding, such as when we thought my cousin was going to knock over a candelabra and burn the church down. Keep up the good work.

By: Angela

Angela — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 02:40:00 +0000

Just had to say wow hot hubby alert!!! Reminds me of a college boyfriend.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 01:25:30 +0000

I got married in 1993 as well and had the same “moment” thoughts at my wedding. You gave her great advise! I have loved every minute of being married and I’m glad you wrote about the ordinary days when you look at you husband and think of how lucky you are to be there with him. I think this all the time. Sometimes I think many people lose sight of this(I don’t hear from many other women how happy they are to spend an ordinary day with their spouse.)
Thanks for the refreshing look at life beyond the wedding day!

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 11 Jun 2007 18:06:09 +0000

You guys look wonderful together - both then and now, though I like the now picture best.

My advice for any bride is the same “always remember the wedding is one day but your marriage is forever”.

I was a florist for years and too many brides would stop in after their wedding with ‘what now’ looks on their faces. They spent years planning that one day and made no provisions for what came after.

We, however, eloped 7 years ago- spent about 2 days planning and have enjoyed each day since more than the day before it…well, mostly

By: Aimee

Aimee — Mon, 11 Jun 2007 17:50:16 +0000

Amen on everything, 100%!

Would LOVE to hear the stories of both your wedding and your mother-in-law’s.

I would only add this piece of advice: eat the day of your wedding, before the wedding. I was so busy with hair appointments and things that I forgot to eat. After cake and driving through the snow to our hotel, I finally had a meal around 9:00 p.m.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Mon, 11 Jun 2007 15:11:14 +0000

My father is a minister and has always said if people spent as much time on their marriage as they did on their wedding they would have a great marriage. He also told me before we went down the aisle if I wanted to back out it would be ok. He didn’t tell my sister however and she divorced 5 years later and said she didn’t want to marry him the day of the wedding. Bill is not how I pictured him. Great one.