Comments on: All For One http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/ Fri, 09 Jan 2009 13:22:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Shawn http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10377 Shawn Fri, 18 Apr 2008 05:19:15 +0000 http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10377 I think you handled it really well, and I laughed out loud when I saw affirmative duty! <em>Shawn's last blog post..<a href='http://imperfectmagic.blogspot.com/2008/04/changes.html' rel="nofollow">Changes</a></em> I think you handled it really well, and I laughed out loud when I saw affirmative duty!

Shawn’s last blog post..Changes

]]> By: Liz http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10341 Liz Wed, 16 Apr 2008 16:14:05 +0000 http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10341 I think you struck it just right. Especially the part where you talked to both boys at the same time so that they both knew that you knew that they both need to take some responsibility. <em>Liz's last blog post..<a href='http://mysterymommy.blogspot.com/2008/04/oh-who-am-i-kidding.html' rel="nofollow">Oh who am I kidding?</a></em> I think you struck it just right. Especially the part where you talked to both boys at the same time so that they both knew that you knew that they both need to take some responsibility.

Liz’s last blog post..Oh who am I kidding?

]]> By: Cassie http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10340 Cassie Wed, 16 Apr 2008 14:31:09 +0000 http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10340 You handled it beautifully. Btw, I bought ferns for the front porch this weekend, let's see if they withstand the heat of the summer. You handled it beautifully.

Btw, I bought ferns for the front porch this weekend, let’s see if they withstand the heat of the summer.

]]> By: Mishka http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10339 Mishka Wed, 16 Apr 2008 04:08:32 +0000 http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10339 I think you did a great job...that is exactly what they have to learn. Dealing with small things on their own is how they learn to deal with big things later. All this goop these days about keeping kids from getting their feelings hurt is just going to make them not able to handle things when they are adults. Obviously, you would want to intervene if there was actual abuse or things got out of hand but dealing with peer pressure and hurt feelings are both things we need to have in our handy bag of tools. <em>Mishka's last blog post..<a href='http://mishkaop.blogspot.com/2008/04/stinky-lotion.html' rel="nofollow">Stinky Lotion</a></em> I think you did a great job…that is exactly what they have to learn. Dealing with small things on their own is how they learn to deal with big things later. All this goop these days about keeping kids from getting their feelings hurt is just going to make them not able to handle things when they are adults. Obviously, you would want to intervene if there was actual abuse or things got out of hand but dealing with peer pressure and hurt feelings are both things we need to have in our handy bag of tools.

Mishka’s last blog post..Stinky Lotion

]]> By: Karyn http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10336 Karyn Wed, 16 Apr 2008 00:44:51 +0000 http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10336 Sounds like you're doing it well to me... I would have handled it differently, but that's not a good thing; doing it my way would have later proved to foster dysfunction and codependence. Rock on, girl. You're doing great. <em>Karyn's last blog post..<a href='http://vexedinthecity.blogspot.com/2008/04/free-bird.html' rel="nofollow">Free Bird</a></em> Sounds like you’re doing it well to me… I would have handled it differently, but that’s not a good thing; doing it my way would have later proved to foster dysfunction and codependence. Rock on, girl. You’re doing great.

Karyn’s last blog post..Free Bird

]]> By: melinda http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10318 melinda Tue, 15 Apr 2008 22:17:55 +0000 http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10318 delurking...Hello! Mom of three, two are sons, eleven months apart (don't ask). We have experienced similar situations, and handled it very similarly, PLUS, I did some "role playing" with each boy, actually having them state, out loud, what they were going to say to the offending party (obnoxiously played by me!...and we repeat it THREE times) I know, waaay too "touchy feely", but, they have been successful after these little sessions, where they weren't so before... Just a thought...love reading you BTW, keep fighting the good fight! delurking…Hello!
Mom of three, two are sons, eleven months apart (don’t ask). We have experienced similar situations, and handled it very similarly, PLUS, I did some “role playing” with each boy, actually having them state, out loud, what they were going to say to the offending party (obnoxiously played by me!…and we repeat it THREE times) I know, waaay too “touchy feely”, but, they have been successful after these little sessions, where they weren’t so before…
Just a thought…love reading you BTW, keep fighting the good fight!

]]> By: Headless Mom http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10317 Headless Mom Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:28:42 +0000 http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10317 You did just fine. Similarly around here the younger would rather watch tv (or almost anything) than play with the older. The older is rather bossy when they play. Trying to find middle ground here in the land of the headless... <em>Headless Mom's last blog post..<a href='http://headlessfamily5.blogspot.com/2008/04/kiddie-straight-jacket.html' rel="nofollow">Kiddie Straight Jacket *</a></em> You did just fine.

Similarly around here the younger would rather watch tv (or almost anything) than play with the older. The older is rather bossy when they play. Trying to find middle ground here in the land of the headless…

Headless Mom’s last blog post..Kiddie Straight Jacket *

]]> By: Jax http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10316 Jax Tue, 15 Apr 2008 19:07:30 +0000 http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10316 I think you handled it wonderfuly! I am an identical twin, and we went through the exact same thing. My feeling were hurt MANY times because my sis didn't stick up for me, and vice versa. However, we both had situations where each other's feeling were hurt SO bad, that friends didn't matter anymore! "Double trouble" kicked in!! I realized one day that clothes, boys (or toys and girls in your case!) didn't matter as much as my sis! Things will work out! I think you handled it wonderfuly! I am an identical twin, and we went through the exact same thing. My feeling were hurt MANY times because my sis didn’t stick up for me, and vice versa. However, we both had situations where each other’s feeling were hurt SO bad, that friends didn’t matter anymore! “Double trouble” kicked in!! I realized one day that clothes, boys (or toys and girls in your case!) didn’t matter as much as my sis! Things will work out!

]]> By: Donna http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10315 Donna Tue, 15 Apr 2008 18:16:43 +0000 http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10315 GAMom voiced my thoughts exactly. Part of your job as a parent is to teach appropriate behavior. Kids that age generally don't have the skills to work it out for themselves. Also if asked, "Why are you picking on my brother?" as VHMom suggested, they may be opening up a whole new can of worms as I'm pretty darn sure Jay can come up with hurtful reasons. Kids usually can and aren't reticent about it. They aren't tactful enough to be embarrassed yet. Speaking from personal experience. GAMom voiced my thoughts exactly. Part of your job as a parent is to teach appropriate behavior. Kids that age generally don’t have the skills to work it out for themselves.

Also if asked, “Why are you picking on my brother?” as VHMom suggested, they may be opening up a whole new can of worms as I’m pretty darn sure Jay can come up with hurtful reasons. Kids usually can and aren’t reticent about it. They aren’t tactful enough to be embarrassed yet. Speaking from personal experience.

]]> By: Erin http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10314 Erin Tue, 15 Apr 2008 17:21:53 +0000 http://www.mytinykingdom.com/2008/04/15/all-for-one/#comment-10314 It's so tough as a mom to see your babies hurting. It sounds like this isn't pretty for either twin. I'm no expert, but I think you did the best you could in this situation. I could pick on my little brother, but if somebody else did I wouldn't stand for it. I'm sure Drew is terribly torn but doesn't want to lose a friend or end up the butt of the jokes himself. I hope the situation resolves itself with your advice. I'm sure the twins would be mortified if you talked to the other mom or a teacher. It’s so tough as a mom to see your babies hurting. It sounds like this isn’t pretty for either twin. I’m no expert, but I think you did the best you could in this situation. I could pick on my little brother, but if somebody else did I wouldn’t stand for it. I’m sure Drew is terribly torn but doesn’t want to lose a friend or end up the butt of the jokes himself. I hope the situation resolves itself with your advice. I’m sure the twins would be mortified if you talked to the other mom or a teacher.

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